I think I can understand why you want a grandchild.
After all, many years ago, you wanted a child. You could picture a baby crib filling the empty corner in the unused office overlooking the driveway. You flipped through magazines, furnishing the room with ideas. Read more
I was going to ignore a comment left sometime last week by someone who had nothing to say but, “Shut up, breeder pleaser.” Read more
A few weeks ago I received an email from someone whose marriage is great – they’re in love, get along well with their spouse, everything is good – but the spouse has recently decided they want a child. Read more
Lilit Marcus’ Mother’s Day article in the Guardian, Just because I love my mother doesn’t mean I have to become one myself, responds to the assumption some people have that women who don’t want children must have had a psychologically or emotionally damaging upbringing. Unfortunately, she responds in a way that ultimately harms rather than helps.
She begins powerfully (but it doesn’t last), addressing what is arguably one of the more obnoxious angles those who think everyone should have children take against those who don’t want them:
I’m seeing a lot of questions in my stats, recently, that resemble this: “If he doesn’t want kids and I do, should we have them/should I trick him into having them, anyway?” Read more
I began reading the blog “The Hiking Humanist” some time ago, and I was recently alerted by another childfree person, Dann Alexander (author of Planned UnParenthood Creating A Life Without Procreating), to the owner, Julie’s, new website Childfree Voices.
Her posts are a high-energy combination of funny, insightful, at times (seemingly) annoyed, and brilliant, and so naturally I wanted to interview her. Read more
What the hell are you thinking?
“My wife doesn’t want another baby. Should I poke a hole in the condom/switch out the potent pill with the sugar pill and get her pregnant against her will?”
Would you answer yes to that?
What is wrong with people?
(The blog title was a question I saw in my stats that led someone to my website.)
In a somewhat recent appearance on Fox News, Fox News writer/click-baiter Suzanne Venker was interviewed about one of her columns, Why women still need husbands, in which she seems, at least, to be writing in the interests of men: Read more
There’s been list after list (after list) compiled about the childfree. What not to tell us, things we hate, untruths about us, silly things people say to us, and truths about us. All great lists, but I think there’s room for one more. This list is called, as you might have gleaned from the post title, “7 things the childfree usually won’t tell you.”
We won’t tell you these things because they’ll either 1) create conflict or 2) ruin our image as STAUNCHLY CHILDFREE FOREVER!!!11! Read more
Everyone has seen in the news the failure of the government to send survivor benefits to military families who lost a loved one at war. Shutdown, and all. So the Fisher House has taken over.
To help the Fisher House (rather, the families they’re helping), I’m selling all of the copies of the signing & giveaway left-overs I have lying around my house that are of no use to anyone and that are cluttering up the place. I’m sending the Fisher House 100% of the proceeds. If you buy a (signed) book, you’re essentially donating to the Fisher House and getting a gift in return. Think of it as lower-scale NPR donation drives (and less annoying, because this is the only post I’ll write – but I hope you share it! – and, of course, pick a book for yourself).