You don’t owe anyone an explanation or self-deprecation

Lilit Marcus’ Mother’s Day article in the Guardian, Just because I love my mother doesn’t mean I have to become one myself, responds to the assumption some people have that women who don’t want children must have had a psychologically or emotionally damaging upbringing. Unfortunately, she responds in a way that ultimately harms rather than helps.

She begins powerfully (but it doesn’t last), addressing what is arguably one of the more obnoxious angles those who think everyone should have children take against those who don’t want them:

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Interview with “Childfree Voices” blog owner Julie

I began reading the blog “The Hiking Humanist” some time ago, and I was recently alerted by another childfree person, Dann Alexander (author of Planned UnParenthood Creating A Life Without Procreating), to the owner, Julie’s, new website Childfree Voices.

Her posts are a high-energy combination of funny, insightful, at times (seemingly) annoyed, and brilliant, and so naturally I wanted to interview her. Continue reading

7 things the childfree won’t usually tell you: a list

There’s been list after list (after list) compiled about the childfree. What not to tell us, things we hate, untruths about us, silly things people say to us, and truths about us. All great lists, but I think there’s room for one more. This list is called, as you might have gleaned from the post title, “7 things the childfree usually won’t tell you.”

We won’t tell you these things  because they’ll either 1) create conflict or 2) ruin our image as STAUNCHLY CHILDFREE FOREVER!!!11! Continue reading

Signed copies of books as gift for donation that benefits familes of fallen soldiers

booksEveryone has seen in the news the failure of the government to send survivor benefits to military families who lost a loved one at war. Shutdown, and all. So the Fisher House has taken over.

To help the Fisher House (rather, the families they’re helping), I’m selling all of the copies of the signing & giveaway left-overs I have lying around my house that are of no use to anyone and that are cluttering up the place. I’m sending the Fisher House 100% of the proceeds. If you buy a (signed) book, you’re essentially donating to the Fisher House and getting a gift in return. Think of it as lower-scale NPR donation drives (and less annoying, because this is the only post I’ll write – but I hope you share it! – and, of course, pick a book for yourself).

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Responses to Christian objections to the childfree choice

The following comments were posted on the website Real Clear Religion in response to the site’s post “The Very Sad Childfree Life” by Father Robert Barron. I thought I’d copy and paste the comments here, along with my responses, so they’re all in one place for those who have similar objections or misconceptions about the childfree (and, in some cases, parents).

1. “GardnGirl” said:

I hate to put it this way but what’s the use of putting up with a man if you don’t have children to show for it? Continue reading