I had forgotten this interview was scheduled to post this month until I visited Living D.I.N.K. to see what was there today, and it was this, in which I discuss the marriages I destroyed by being childfree (don’t worry – they were my own), when I finally knew for sure I didn’t want kids, and this business of “missing out” by not having kids.
On recognizing my disinclination to have kids:
His desire for a nice house, a nice car, and a family started to penetrate – mostly the “family” part. “Family means kids,” I realized. They were real, then. Something I assumed I could physically produce, and that made me think about them in a less abstract way for the first time. My instinct, my immediate reflex, was whatever “No” feels like in your soul.
Thank you, Yael of Living D.I.N.K.! (A great site to follow, btw.)