Responses to Christian objections to the childfree choice

The following comments were posted on the website Real Clear Religion in response to the site’s post “The Very Sad Childfree Life” by Father Robert Barron. I thought I’d copy and paste the comments here, along with my responses, so they’re all in one place for those who have similar objections or misconceptions about the childfree (and, in some cases, parents).

1. “GardnGirl” said:

I hate to put it this way but what’s the use of putting up with a man if you don’t have children to show for it? Continue reading “Responses to Christian objections to the childfree choice”

Re: Kathleen Parker’s insulting WaPo column “Of pleasure and parenting”

Photo (c) Newsbusters.org
Photo (c) Newsbusters.org

Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it.

She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it… She apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me.

This is where many women, such as Kathleen Parker in her recent column “Of pleasure and parenthood,” fail miserably when they say things, as Parker did, like, “it’s hard to know for certain that one doesn’t want children. Many don’t, until they do.” Continue reading “Re: Kathleen Parker’s insulting WaPo column “Of pleasure and parenting””

Officially tired of the typical childfree conversation.

I keep seeing the same things over and over again in conversations about the childfree. And over and over. And maybe it’s because I’m writing essentially the same articles for work this year that I wrote last year that I have little to no patience for repeats. Or maybe I’m really just tired of the direction these talks are going. Continue reading “Officially tired of the typical childfree conversation.”

“We need more smart / educated women having babies.”

Guardian writer Sadhbh Walshe takes issue in her recent article, “Should we care that smart women aren’t having kids?,”with research conducted by psychologist Satoshi Kanazawa, whose “ultimate conclusion” in his book The Intelligence Paradox, she says, is that

intelligent women’s failure to reproduce is bad for them because they are flying in the face of their biological destiny and it’s also bad for society because fewer intelligent moms means fewer intelligent kids and that may have drastic implications for the nationwide IQ.

Continue reading ““We need more smart / educated women having babies.””

What’s with all this “having it all” nonsense?

J.C. schools a kid (Photo from http://movies.zap2it.com)

Within the first five minutes of the 1987 movie Baby Boom –  about female advertising executive J.C. Wiatt – a partner at the firm, Fritz, delivers this piece of advice after telling J.C. he wants her to be a partner:

You know that normally I don’t think of you as a woman. But in this case, I do have to look at you as a woman-slash-partner. What if you and Steven decide to get married somewhere down the line? What if he expects a wife? Do you understand the sacrifices you’re going to have to make? Continue reading “What’s with all this “having it all” nonsense?”