Responses to Christian objections to the childfree choice

The following comments were posted on the website Real Clear Religion in response to the site’s post “The Very Sad Childfree Life” by Father Robert Barron. I thought I’d copy and paste the comments here, along with my responses, so they’re all in one place for those who have similar objections or misconceptions about the childfree (and, in some cases, parents).

1. “GardnGirl” said:

I hate to put it this way but what’s the use of putting up with a man if you don’t have children to show for it? Continue reading “Responses to Christian objections to the childfree choice”

Re: Kathleen Parker’s insulting WaPo column “Of pleasure and parenting”

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Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it.

She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it… She apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me.

This is where many women, such as Kathleen Parker in her recent column “Of pleasure and parenthood,” fail miserably when they say things, as Parker did, like, “it’s hard to know for certain that one doesn’t want children. Many don’t, until they do.” Continue reading “Re: Kathleen Parker’s insulting WaPo column “Of pleasure and parenting””

A response to Sarah B. Weir’s reaction to the childfree TIME issue

The current issue of TIME magazine discusses people who choose not to have children.

Writes Yahoo! Shine writer (and mother) Beth Greenfield,

What does “having it all” mean? Not having kids, according to the latest sure-to-be-controversial issue of Time magazine.

I don’t know why it’s “sure-to-be-controversial,” since it’s not like childfree people want to poke people in the eyes with sharp sticks as part of their childfree lifestyle, but I guess it’s time to accept that one person’s decision to not have children will raise “controversy” hackles in others.

Continue reading “A response to Sarah B. Weir’s reaction to the childfree TIME issue”

What’s with all this “having it all” nonsense?

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Within the first five minutes of the 1987 movie Baby Boom –  about female advertising executive J.C. Wiatt – a partner at the firm, Fritz, delivers this piece of advice after telling J.C. he wants her to be a partner:

You know that normally I don’t think of you as a woman. But in this case, I do have to look at you as a woman-slash-partner. What if you and Steven decide to get married somewhere down the line? What if he expects a wife? Do you understand the sacrifices you’re going to have to make? Continue reading “What’s with all this “having it all” nonsense?”

Mom who says kids are her biggest regret – courageous or cruel?

Any child of parents can probably imagine what it might feel like to see a picture of their mother’s (or father’s) face in a major publication accompanying an article whose headline basically screams, “I wish I’d never had the lot o’ ya!” Continue reading “Mom who says kids are her biggest regret – courageous or cruel?”