Subliminal (-ish) childfree opinion in Bravo’s “Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce”

I always hit pause on the DVR when there’s a letter, note, notecard, book page, anything written at all on the screen. I’m curious about two things: how it’s written (is real care taken, or is does it make just enough sense?), and what it says.

Today while watching Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce (basically Sex and the City meets Californication, but without Californication‘s ridiculous sexism and gratuitous anal beads) I paused on a screen shot of a page from a book being written by the show’s protagonist, Abby McCarthy. What would she write in her book, The Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce, I wondered. Continue reading “Subliminal (-ish) childfree opinion in Bravo’s “Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce””

Interview with “Childfree Voices” blog owner Julie

I began reading the blog “The Hiking Humanist” some time ago, and I was recently alerted by another childfree person, Dann Alexander (author of Planned UnParenthood Creating A Life Without Procreating), to the owner, Julie’s, new website Childfree Voices.

Her posts are a high-energy combination of funny, insightful, at times (seemingly) annoyed, and brilliant, and so naturally I wanted to interview her. Continue reading “Interview with “Childfree Voices” blog owner Julie”

my husband doesnt want another baby, should i get pregant anyway?


What the hell are you thinking?

“My wife doesn’t want another baby. Should I poke a hole in the condom/switch out the potent pill with the sugar pill and get her pregnant against her will?”

Would you answer yes to that?

What is wrong with people?

(The blog title was a question I saw in my stats that led someone to my website.)

7 things the childfree won’t usually tell you: a list

There’s been list after list (after list) compiled about the childfree. What not to tell us, things we hate, untruths about us, silly things people say to us, and truths about us. All great lists, but I think there’s room for one more. This list is called, as you might have gleaned from the post title, “7 things the childfree usually won’t tell you.”

We won’t tell you these things  because they’ll either 1) create conflict or 2) ruin our image as STAUNCHLY CHILDFREE FOREVER!!!11! Continue reading “7 things the childfree won’t usually tell you: a list”

Re: Kathleen Parker’s insulting WaPo column “Of pleasure and parenting”

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Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it.

She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it… She apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me.

This is where many women, such as Kathleen Parker in her recent column “Of pleasure and parenthood,” fail miserably when they say things, as Parker did, like, “it’s hard to know for certain that one doesn’t want children. Many don’t, until they do.” Continue reading “Re: Kathleen Parker’s insulting WaPo column “Of pleasure and parenting””

Officially tired of the typical childfree conversation.

I keep seeing the same things over and over again in conversations about the childfree. And over and over. And maybe it’s because I’m writing essentially the same articles for work this year that I wrote last year that I have little to no patience for repeats. Or maybe I’m really just tired of the direction these talks are going. Continue reading “Officially tired of the typical childfree conversation.”

A message to Tucker Carlson and a new TV interview

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Dear Tucker,

Recently on Fox and Friends, you said of women who choose not to have children, “Having children means less time for vacations and spin class, where the real meaning in life resides, right? I mean, have you seen anything more selfish, decadent, and stupid?”

Continue reading “A message to Tucker Carlson and a new TV interview”